What's eating me

For the last week couldn’t sleep properly and had just one thought in my
mind, the things that happened in the past, the things that actually made me
start writing this blog in the first place. However, in the day I was fine but
as the night approached the unrest grew.

There were times I would be on the brink of crying but eventually fell
asleep. Maybe there are unresolved things but they may always remain
unresolved. And that’s life, isn’t it? Before this period, I was leading a
comparatively better life, I was actually feeling happy, working towards my
goals but this crippling feeling left me off tracks. Everything seemed to fall
out of place.

However, listening to some people really gave me a different perspective on
things, how these things are abysmal in the long run. Concentrating on these
things would result in nothing but a deterioration of your mental health and
peace. But, the main point here is these things are easier said than done. I
can say all I want that I’ll get past things but it’s not that easy, is it?
These points bite you down to your knees, to a point where there seems no light
at the end of the tunnel, where you’re trapped in your own being. But we should
remember one thing when you hit rock bottom, there’s no way but up.

Just to get out of this for a while, I went out, took my definition of a
break, and that just helped me come out of the phase for the time being. I
don’t know for how long but I can say that I got this!!! I can handle it, I’ll
need people to support me, call me out on my bullshit but I’ll come out of it a
better and stronger person. Also, when you don’t have your bad days, how will
you value the good days. We all have got this, we’ll be fine for ourselves.
We’ll conquer it and be the badasses we’re during the process.

And to quote from the Instagram if I may, ” On particularly rough
days when I’m sure I can’t possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my
track record for getting through bad days so far is 100%, and that’s pretty
good.”

A few days ago, amidst the turmoil of presentations and reports I got a chance to meet my old friends in the college, I got to see how they have changed after the internship and the nervousness on their face. The pressure to perform, the need to present yourself in the best way, to show your work of three months in a matter of minutes, everything seemed to move fast and everybody in their own world.

In this atmosphere, I couldn’t help but catch the nervousness for myself. However, one thing that got me through this was my special people who acknowledged my qualities, made me concentrate on my positive traits. But, even though most of us have these people around us who care about us, it somehow becomes difficult to keep your head held high, keep that spark in you alive.

To try and get over it, I tried many faulty coping mechanisms, however, none of them worked but then on one trip to meet a friend, I met this genuinely nice guy and we got to talking, I complimented on one or two qualities of his, and that complimenting felt good. I have a habit of acknowledging things I like about people in one way or another but I didn’t pay attention to the feeling after that. However, the Mumbai traffic gave me a chance to do so.

Now, this may sound shallow but sometimes genuinely complimenting and acknowledging the good traits of people can help you feel good about yourself. You feel good because you may have made the other person feel better about themselves. In the world where many people just want to point the bad in you, be the one to shed light on the good in others. Who knows, you may have just made their day, made them smile in a time of despair, lifted their confidence. Doing these good deeds makes you feel good. It gives you the joy of maybe putting a smile on the other person’s face. And that feeling is just awesome.

So go out there and tell the guy about his awesome communication skills, tell the girl about her great personality, tell your best friend how you like how funny they are, compliment a person on their style, who knows how many people you may make happy today!!!

“In everyone’s life, at some time, our inner fire goes out. It is then burst into flame by an encounter with another human being. We should all be thankful for those people who rekindle the inner spirit.”
– Albert Schweitzer

When you need someone to talk to and cannot do it with your family, it’s the friends you turn to. The people who take your bullshit, you support you through the bullshit and get you out of the bullshit more often than not. They’re the people who stay with you through the thick and thin, through the rains and the summers. through sickness and health and everything else in between.

When we’ve been out of the house for a long time, we make our own family outside of the family we have, to get through life. And when the times are difficult, they come to your rescue. Even when they’re away they find a way to help you. I find myself lucky to have such friends by my side. And I hope you guys have them too.

When the times are tough, we need two things, someone to give us perspective and a shoulder to lean on, if you have both, no times are too tough to get through. However, some of us are too introverted to have top many friends or open up to the friends we do have. In such cases, writing it down helps. Write it on a paper, read it every day and one day it will all be a story and not bother you emotionally. This may seem really painful in the beginning but as time passes, you’ll be not be affected by it.

However, having a buddy or two by your side always helps. A person who can give you an ear without any judgments, someone who can tell you that what you’re doing is wrong when it is. They give you a different perspective than yours and help you make better decisions. Also, the people who help you during the hard times, deserve a toast when you are living the best part of your life. So never forget them when you reach the top.

Ending this post with a shout out to all the people who have been there with me through the testing times and helped me get out of it. Love you guys!!!!!

Oh the number of times I’ve overthought things, what would s/he be thinking, what is his or her opinion about me. We sometimes care so much about these things that we forget to live our own lives.

On the other hand, we form opinions about people even without knowing them properly, everybody may have a reason to behave in the way they do, without knowing the backstory, or what they’re going through. You may not know what they’ve been through, what they’re going through; a person who’s laughing, and seems all happy maybe broken inside.

In some situations, we tend to spend too much time in giving thoughts to trivial things. The people we meet, make acquaintances with may not put as much thought as we put ourselves through just to be liked and appreciated. Even though I agree that we all love to be appreciated and constantly liked but this feeling should not take precedence to your mental health. As I mentioned in the previous post, there are some things one should let go which may take time but once you do, you live a better life.

There are some ways to stop overthinking, to do that first thing we need to do is work on our own self esteem, build that self-confidence we’re lacking, stop judging other people, once we do that life becomes easier to live and more fun to enjoy.

However, sometimes the overthinking kicks in the worst of the times. When you’re in a bad phase, we tend to think about certain stuff too much and thus spiraling down the rabbit hole which makes things worse. In such cases, the best thing a person can do let the people know what you think and clear stuff out. This may put a break on the overthinking train if not stop it.

Overthinking is something no one can help you with but yourself. Unless we take charge of our lives it won’t get better. most things are not that easy to do and achieve but my friends we all have it in us and we just need to find it.

And remember to stop worrying about what can go wrong, and get excited about what can go right, and life would be brighter again.

When you talk to people about your issues, the most common advice we get is to let go of things. Oh how we wish it was just that easy. Letting go is one of the hardest things to do sometimes.

In life, you don’t only have to let go of things, memories and circumstances but also people. Letting go of people can be the toughest things to go through. The feeling of leaving a friend, a loved one, a person close to you behind can eat you from the inside. But there are some ways to make the transition easier.

One of the ways to get over people is to let your feelings out. If one doesn’t vent, the feeling grows and hampers your everyday life. Do everything you need to. Talk to friends, write them down, visit a therapist if you have to but give the feelings an outlet. Once the things you’re feeling are out in the world, it somehow becomes easier to move to the next step

The next step is to think about yourself, focus on yourself, by that I don’t mean that you need to become selfish, but get in touch with the person that you are, this is the time when you can discover yourself, know what you want in life, pave the way to achieve those goals. In this way you can turn the adversity into something productive and be proud of yourself.

However, all the things stated above are easier said than done but once you set you will to do it, you’ll discover yourself like never before. And that my friend is the best feeling in the world.

And the one thing to keep in mind is always forgive what hurt you but never forget what it taught you.

There are some days in when you wake up with this sinking feeling in your heart. The feeling of not being understood, misunderstood, being alone and if something bad happens, that acts as a cherry on the top.

You talk to people, try and lift yourself up, but nothing seems to work. You go into your shell and wish never to come out. It’s this all time gloomy feeling which decreases our will to work and in worst cases, live. These are the times we need that one person who could bring us back to our version of ‘ normal’. However, if you loose that person too, there are still some ways you can make your day better if not good.

Everything seems too hard in these days but these are the days that one needs to take charge of their life. We discover ourselves in a new light. We think about the deepest thoughts we have, the things we like, dislike and tolerate.

In order to change the atmosphere around you, talk to new people, talk about random things, get to know new people, there are always some people you don’t know much about, people who have a different story than yours, a new tale to tell. when you hear new stories, one gets engulfed in it, this helps in getting over the awful and sinking thoughts that were running through your mind. it’s not always easy; however, these are the moments of courage that help us get to the other side of the tunnel, Victorious!!

Another way is to talk to a person about the things you’re feeling, there are people who care for you, who want to see you happy and they can help. Find people who won’t judge you, who would at least try and understand and give you a helping hand to overcome these fears and see the light in your life.

To end my first blog post, I would like to quote one of my good friends, “Struggling for self is okay, as long as you don’t give up, you’re okay.”